Today was just one of the happy days i have had in my life. Sometimes you have to exchange the pain with joy :)
Never allow yourself to be consumed by the false hopes from people feeding of you.”
Well let me start with a short story…
I was conducting a review class with LOM to make it up for the topics I haven’t discussed to them yet and the review is through skype. Since my laptop’s doesn’t support any plug in equipment it’s going to be loud.
My sister keeps on entering our room and leaving it without closing the door, so in return, I keep on banging the door *exaggerating here* closing it. And then she entered again and stays in her bed. So, I told her to stay outside for the meantime for I will be having the review class already. To my surprise, she responded annoyingly mad and called me rudely. She said, “bakit di ikaw lumabas, wala kang galang ah” as she said with annoyance.
Left with no choice, I packed my things and went outside the room and continued the review session outside. In a little while, she went out again and turned on the TV and her phone’s youtube or video “chuchu” where she watched insensitively. Prior to this, she posted on FB, “Show some respect if you want to live a peaceful life. Ur not alone in this house., if you want to be alone, get out! You don’t have the right to talk to me that way!-insensitive”
And the conversation ended there.
My take on this situation is this, it was never my intention to become rude or to disrespect, what i just said was the ordinary words that come out to me. No more, no less. Unfortunately the recipient might have been too naive to react rudely to it.
Actually, there are two things that I realized in this situation:
1. Respect: For me respect is such a big word. Nobody gets it the way they want to get it. Respect is earned and it’s never enforced. You have to be deserving for that respect in order for you to get one.
2. Insensitivity: it is said to be one of the most common barriers why people have misunderstanding, but i guess, being too sensitive would also mean the same way.
I can’t blame her for reacting that way but I guess it’s only right too not to feel guilty about it either. I mean, in life we sometimes need to fight in the most bitter way in order for us to learn and prove our worth. Just because I’m the youngest doesn’t mean that I have no rights to say my piece. I respect people only IF THEY KNOW HOW TO RESPECT OTHERS, or in this case, I RESPECT ONLY THOSE WHO SHOW RESPECT TO ME. I know in some perspective this may be wrong, but that’s the principle I’m living.
as the golden rule would remind us: “Don’t do unto others what you don’t want others to do unto you”
simple yet meaningful line.